Letting go is hard work. Watching your children leave for college brings all sorts of emotions to the surface. That's when you truly do the hard work of separating. Separating is horrible, and the work is hard, but it really pays off!
I'm reading all my home educating friends talking about starting their new academic year and I'm thinking...I am so not ready to not be a home educator any more. I wonder what my cat wants to learn this year? Another strange week ahead, of trying to adjust to our new lives and routines. I'm also meeting with someone who wants to know more about home educating her daughter today and we have a Life-Songs meeting tonight. You know all those 'life events' that cause people huge stress, like bereavement, divorce, moving house, having a baby? I'd say finishing long-term home-schooling, and transitioning out of that... era, can be almost as dramatic and stressful a change for a family. Not in the top 3, but definitely up there.
It's a hard stage. Some stages of parenting are just more difficult than others. Sending children off into the world is difficult. It's not merely difficult for homeschoolers, however. It's difficult for every parent. There are many articles in the media about parents having difficulty saying goodbye to their children. Don't worry that this is unique to homeschooling, because it isn't.
The process of saying goodbye take a long time - roughly four years. Once the goodbye's have all been said, what is next? I have watched my children leave home, done the difficult work of letting go. Now I'm left with just joy. When Kevin got married, I was completely prepared. All my goodbyes had already been said. I didn't shed a tear. I was just happy and joyful.
In a way, it's a good that you can go through this NOW.
In a way.
I know that doesn't really help! It is VERY stressful. It does really hurt. Eventually, you'll just be left with joy.
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